WHAT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE DIFFERENT?
How can I support you in healing your relationships with yourself and others in your life?
Regardless if was solely porn, emotional or physical affairs or other forms of acting out, finding out that your most trusted person is not who you thought they were and has been betraying you sexually and in other ways, is nothing short of traumatic. A partner's (male or female) reality, view of their life (past, present and future) is completely questioned as they try to determine what is real and what isn't. Their nervous system is sent into overdrive as they try to seek safety and respond to the flood of emotions and triggers. Then EVERYONE has an opinion if they should stay married or get a divorce. And the couple involved might changed their opinions on that daily if not hourly. So how can coaching with me help with this?
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Trusted Coaching Professional
I became a coach to more effectively support women who were badly hurt and not sure how to handle due to their partner's sexual betrayal.
I have been very blessed to be able to work with some of the best professionals in area of professional Coaching, Sex Addition, Betrayal Trauma, Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), Attachment Theory, IFS (Internal Family Systems), Boundaries and Family of Origin. Unfortunately, there are not enough of them and too many well meaning people who just give plain bad advice. So here is my approach to working with women who are trying to figure out their way through this hell on earth.
1) I will never tell you that the reason your partner is lusting after other people is anything to do with you. Some of the world's most beautiful women are cheated on. It wasn't due to their lack of beauty, their ability to be the perfect wife or how crazy they were in the bedroom. Their partner's betrayal was due to their own brokeness, lack of intergrity, and selfishness. You being more perfect, more submitted/Godly, more available... isn't the solution. You know this because if you can't make a whole person with integrity chaeat for any of these reasons.
2) I will never tell you aren't committed or Godly enough if you leave or you weak if you stay. That is a choice that only you can make because situation is so complicated and you are one that has to live with the consequences. And I won't judge you if your decision to stay or leave changes each week.
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LEARN MORE ABOUT ME
Trusted Coaching Professional
I became a coach to more effectively support women who were badly hurt and not sure how to handle due to their partner's sexual betrayal.
I have been very blessed to be able to work with some of the best professionals in area of professional Coaching, Sex Addition, Betrayal Trauma, Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), Attachment Theory, IFS (Internal Family Systems), Boundaries and Family of Origin. Unfortunely, there are not enough of them and too many well meaning people who just give plain bad advice. So here is my approach to working with women who are trying to figure out their way through this hell on earth.
1) I will never tell you that the reason your partner is lusting after other people is anything to do with you. Some of the world's most beautiful women are cheated on. It wasn't due to their lack of beauty, their ability to be the perfect wife or how crazy they were in the bedroom. Their partner's betrayal was due to their own brokeness, lack of intergrity, and selfishness. You being more perfect, more submitted/Godly, more available... isn't the solution. You know this because if you can't make a whole person with integrity chaeat for any of these reasons.
2) I will never tell you aren't committed or Godly enough if you leave or you weak if you stay. That is a choice that only you can make because situation is so complicated and you are one that has to live with the consequences. And I won't judge you if your decision to stay or leave changes each week.
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LEARN MORE ABOUT ME
Trusted Coaching Professional
I became a coach to more effectively support women who were badly hurt and not sure how to handle due to their partner's sexual betrayal.
I have been very blessed to be able to work with some of the best professionals in area of professional Coaching, Sex Addition, Betrayal Trauma, Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), Attachment Theory, IFS (Internal Family Systems), Boundaries and Family of Origin. Unfortunely, there are not enough of them and too many well meaning people who just give plain bad advice. So here is my approach to working with women who are trying to figure out their way through this hell on earth.
1) I will never tell you that the reason your partner is lusting after other people is anything to do with you. Some of the world's most beautiful women are cheated on. It wasn't due to their lack of beauty, their ability to be the perfect wife or how crazy they were in the bedroom. Their partner's betrayal was due to their own brokeness, lack of intergrity, and selfishness. You being more perfect, more submitted/Godly, more available... isn't the solution. You know this because if you can't make a whole person with integrity chaeat for any of these reasons.
2) I will never tell you aren't committed or Godly enough if you leave or you weak if you stay. That is a choice that only you can make because situation is so complicated and you are one that has to live with the consequences. And I won't judge you if your decision to stay or leave changes each week.
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IN WHAT WAYS CAN COACHING HELP THE RELATIONSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE?
Help for Your Life
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF
Understand yourself and what hinders you from doing what you want to. For example:
* Help stop ___
* Help start____
* Understand why do I feel ___?
* Why do I not stand up for myself?
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER
Understanding yourself and your partner helps but we also need to learn relationship skills needed for the phase of our relationship. For Example:
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How both partners can set boundaries without feeling controlled or controlling.
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How to get unstuck and move toward the relationship you want.
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How to cope without destroying your relationship right after discovery/disclosure of betrayal.
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How to build/rebuild trust and a sense of safety after betrayal.
RELATIONSHIPS WITH ALL THE OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE LIKE YOUR CHILDREN, PARENTS
How to Build or repair relationships:
“We know what we are, but not what we may be”